A pair of Ears

Sometimes, you want your partner to listen. When you love someone, it’s natural to want to fix things. You’d climb mountains to make any pain or discomfort they’re feeling go away.

Once you get marry – the other half becomes your priority and you share each and every detail of your life. The other half will be the first person that you want to vent out the thoughts but what if you are not heard. Where do you end up?

Sometimes feels like getting hung in alcohol (Alcohol affects the brain causing lower inhibitions, which makes us feel more confident. But lower inhibitions can also make us say or do something that we may come to regret.) and letting the thoughts out whether you are heard or not (Because peeps enjoy the drunk person talks). Sometimes feels like going to Psychiatrist and let flow off the bothering thoughts.

Discussing the same problems over and over again, instead of facilitating a release, can end up feeding our negative feelings, insecurities.

So it’s not easy to understand that sometimes, your partner doesn’t want a solution. They just want a pair of ears.

“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.”― Roy T. Bennett

Circling back to my work frustrations that I sometimes grapple with, I rarely want him to problem-solve. He’s not God nor is in my shoes. But I still want to talk about things when I’m overwhelmed. I want him to understand what I am going through.

It’s perfectly fine to let your partner know you want them to listen. Or actively listen by asking questions about how you feel and what happened.

LISTEN ONCE IN A WHILE ITS AMAZING WHAT YOU CAN HEAR

Communication is crucial for a healthy relationship, and it’s something all of us can learn more about.